9/4/2014 mentoring barry gane (thank you wayne french)
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MENTORING
Barry Gane (Thank You Wayne French)
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Definition of Mentoring
Mentoring is a dynamic, intentional relationship of trust where one person enables another to maximise the Grace of God in their life and service.
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History of Mentoring
In Homer's Odessey, the Greek warrior Odysseus leaves his wife and his young son, Telemarchus, at home while he journeys to fight in the Trojan War. To ensure that his son is adequately cared for, Odysseus appoints a teacher named Mentor to tutor the boy and act as a guardian and friend while he is way.
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The privilege of having a mentor is to know I do not run alone. Someone is barracking for me
Heb 10:24,25…spur one another on towards love and good deeds…encourage one another
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Need for Mentoring
Of 400 leaders in the Bible only 100 finished well.
10,000 ex-pastors in Australia! (Rowland Croucher, - John Mark Ministries in Melbourne Research)
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Need for Mentoring
Pressure of Public Life Compulsive competitive behavior Irresistible forces of power(pride), wealth(greed),
sex(lust). Few meaningful relationships Neglect of friends, spouse and family Cynical spirit of Today’s media and society Little or no intimacy with Christ Difficulty in breaking one’s isolation and becoming
transparent and vulnerable even within a caring group.
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Need for Mentoring Adolescents
Latch-Key kids and Working Parents
Lifestyle Changes Adolescent Isolation
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Mentoring and Adolescents
The International Youth Foundation put it this way;
" Every young person needs at least one adult who is irrationally committed to their well-being. Millions of children grow up virtually alone - disconnected from adults. No love. No supervision. No positive role models. Yet these people must still find their way - they still grow up to become adults. Children can endure the most miserable conditions - even thrive in the midst of them when - if they have at least one loving adult committed to their success.
p66 New Directions
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Mentoring and Adolescents
The peer group exerts a powerful influence on millions of kids today, but it's only influence by default. It's influence given to it by a culture that has abandoned its young.
But when parents are there for their kids - and when young people are surrounded by adults who truly care about them - the peer group is virtually de-fanged…
Kids really do want guidance and direction from people who are older and wiser than they are. New Direction p68
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Mentoring and Adolescents
What the studies tell us is that teenagers do look first to significant adults in their lives for influence. They look to their parents, then to other family members, then to other adults who are "irrationally committed" to them. p67 New Directions
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Types of Mentoring Relationships
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Qualities of a Mentor
Christ centered Passionate Relational Affirming Trusting and Trustworthy
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Qualities of a Mentor
Available Open and Transparent Prayerful Self Aware
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Mentoring and Adolescents
Adolescents need oases - places where they can go and make mistakes and be imperfect - places where they can test themselves in the presence of safe, caring, and accepting adults and peers. An adolescent who is given the zip-it silencing treatment, learns quickly not to experiment or trust himself Starting Right .308
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Mentoring and Adolescents
“But suppose that they look at the model and find a person with whom they can truly identify.
Suppose they find a warm, loving, accepting, compassionate heart. Suppose they find high personal standards coupled with a great understanding of human weakness in others.
Suppose they find one who has purpose in life, who knows where he is going, and who journeys on his way with a song on his lips and a radiance on his face because God is with him.
Will they not say, " That's what I want let me follow you. Teach me how to find the richness of life that you have found.”
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Some Resources
Jean E. Rhodes, A Critical View of Youth Mentoring: New Directions for Youth Development,
Carol A. Mullen, Dale Lick, New Directions in Mentoring: Creating a Culture of Synergy
Randy D. Reese, Keith R. Anderson, Spiritual Mentoring: A Guide for Seeking and Giving Direction
Cathi Basler, New Directions for Youth Ministry “Intensive Caring: Practical ways to Mentor Youth” by
Group Publishing “Successful Youth Mentoring” Group Publishing “One Kid at a Time” Wayne Rice and Miles Mc Pherson
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Some Resources
Charles Kishpaugh & Barbara Bruce, Friends in Faith: Mentoring Youth in the Church, 1993 Discipleship Resources, Nashville
Sharon Reed (ed.), Guides to Youth Ministry - Pastoral Care, 1993 Don Bosco Multimedia, New Rochelle
Sondra Higgins Matthaei, Faith Matters: Faith-Mentoring in the Faith Community, 1996,Trinity Press International, Valley Forge
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Mentor Programs
Cheryl Lawrie, (ed.), The Belonging Kit, 1998 Uniting Education, Melbourne
Devo'Zine Small Group an Mentor's Guide, Upper Room, Nashville
John A Vitek, A Companion Way Mentoring Youth in Searching Faith, 1992 Saint Mary's Press, Winona
William H. Willimon, Makin Disciples - a new approach to confirmation, 1990 Logos Productions