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Interpersonal Attraction and “LOVE”
Liking, Loving, Leaving and Hating: Backman’s Model of
Relationships
• Stage 1: From “no contact” to “unilateral awareness”– The key importance of propinquity– Additional factors
• Cultural restraints
• Familial restraints
• Individual factors (sexuality, disability, etc)
Backman’s 4 Stages (cont.)
• Stage 2: Sampling and estimation– Begins with first impressions
– Then comes identity bargaining (impression management)
– The comes the compromise process• Prospectives are usually similar in race, age, class, etc.
• Prospectives are similar in physical atttractiveness
– Normative Constraints can re-emerge at this stage.
Backman’s 4 Stages (cont.)
• Stage 3: Social Penetration– Self-disclosure– Interdependence– Emotional convergence
• Changes in self-attributions: “We” instead of ‘I”
• Reinforcement and learning: partners train one another
Backman’s 4 Stages (end)• Stage 4: Relationships are maintained, or
relationships dissolve. Why?– Changes in costs and rewards
• Individual: “I am more successful than you now!”
• Relational: “We’re bored with one another”
• Situational: “I can’t support you financially anymore”
• Cultural: “It’s okay for me to work outside the home now!”
– Interpersonal Processes leading to termination• Reciprocity
• Questioning of motives
• “Going public”
• Unequal involvement