5 love languages by roel tolentino
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Roel S. Tolentino, MD, MBA, FPCS, FACS, FPSGS, FPSO, FMOSP
Surgical OncologistProfessor of Surgery Level IV
Personality, Leadership and Business Coach
Past President - Philippine Society of Oncology
Discovering your Love Language
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Roel S. Tolentino, MD, MBA, FPCS, FACS, FPSGS, FPSO, FMOSP
Surgical OncologistProfessor of Surgery Level IV
Personality, Leadership and Business Coach
Past President - Philippine Society of Oncology
Discovering your Love Language
Objectives
At the end of the lecture, the audience
will be aware on the five love languages.
will be encouraged to use this knowledge to reduce relationship problems.
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A. I feel loved when you acknowledge me.
C. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
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A. I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism.
C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large expensive gift.
14B. I feel close to someone when
we are talking or doing something together.
E. I feel closer to friends & loved ones when we wrestle, hug or shake hands.
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A. I like you to compliment my achievements.
D. I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t enjoy doing.
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C. I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.
D. I feel loved when you help me with my home projects.
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A. I like when you compliment my appearance.
B. I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings
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B. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention.
D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me.
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C. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift.
D. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (written or spoken)
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D. I feel loved when you help me out with my chores.
E. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
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C. I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift.
D. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me.
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B. I enjoy extended trips with you.
D. I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with my daily task.
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E. Kissing me unexpectedly makes me feel loved.
F. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me feel loved.
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A. I like to be told that you appreciate me.
B. I like for you to look at me when we are talking.
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A. I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.
D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have requested.
Scoring
Add Total Number of Answers:A. Words of affirmationB. Quality TimeC. Receiving GiftsD. Acts of ServiceE. Physical Touch
There are five languages of loveWords of AffirmationQuality TimeReceiving GiftsActs of ServicePhysical Touch
First language: Words of Affirmation
These are compliments or words of appreciation.
Also included are words of encouragement.
The tone of your voice matters. Keep it kind!
If asking for something, make it a request, not a demand.
Second language: Quality Time
It is spending time with each other, without being distracted by other things around you.
You are both doing an activity you enjoy (or one enjoys and the other is willing to do), to be together, and the focus is not on the activity as much as it is on being together.
Second language: Quality Time
Know your spouse by talking with each other. “What do you think about…..”
No interrupting, no giving advice. Listen to what they are saying and respond kindly to it!
Be willing to share your feelings, wishes, and dreams.
Third language: Receiving Gifts
A gift is a visual symbol of the love you have for the other.
The cost of the gift does not matter, as much as the thought and effort put into giving the gift.
Gifts may be homemade, bought, or found.
Third language: Receiving Gifts
A single flower given a dozen times will have more meaning than a dozen roses given one time.
Love is a difficult emotion to express, and a gift is a visual symbol of that love.
Fourth language: Acts of Service
Acts of service is love expressed by actions.
You put thought, time, energy, and effort into deciding what would please your spouse the most.
Love this way may be shown as helping with various chores.
Fourth language: Acts of Service
It takes time and effort to decide what specific actions would mean the most to your spouse. What is important to one is not important to another.
Fifth language: Physical Touch
No, it’s not just about sex.
It may include hugs, holding hands, a brief touch to one’s shoulder, or a brief kiss before leaving home.
Fifth language: Physical Touch
We all have a need to have physical touch in our lives, from the time we are infants.
People who express love in this way have a greater need than others.
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Use the knowledge of Love Languages to improve your relationship with other people.
Time is NOW!