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Betenu News U R J

Volume 27, Number 7 April 2010 Nisan / Iyar 5770

RABBI’S MESSAGE: WHAT DO WE WANT? Most of us belong to the synagogue because we are committed to a set of Jewish values by which we want to live and by which we want our children to live. At many a Bar or Bat Mitsvah service, I say to the new adult Jew, "my hope is that some combination of what you learned at home and what you’ve learned in religious school, will lead you on a path to a full Jewish life." Many of you have heard the story of a Bar Mitsvah early in my career that follows: It was two-weeks before the Bar Mitsvah. The student was prepared to lead the service, he knew his Torah portion, and his speech was written. I happened to ask him, "What is another name for the contents of the Torah?" He stared at me with a blank look, so I prompted him, "The Five Books of …". He maintained the blank look, so I volunteered, "Moses?" To this he responded, "Who is Moses?" I recently found out that this individual is now well into his 30's and is not actively practicing Judaism. But why would I expect differently? Except for the required Friday night service attendance plus religious school, this young man had no context for his Judaism. Our school can't compensate for the absence of Jewish context in one's life. In a recent quiz at one of my classes, the question was: Name 2-port cities in Israel. I was amused when one student wrote "Haggadah", so I asked the class, "Who can tell me what a Haggadah is?" I was shocked when 2-weeks before Passover, not one of the students in the class knew what a "Haggadah" really was. Our school can teach about the "Haggadah" and Moses, but whether the students remember these and other "Jewish stuff" beyond the quiz is all about context. Assuming, that the April newsletter comes out on time, it is now the middle of Pesach. If you haven't already done so, take bread and pasta off the menu for the duration of the holiday. The abstractions of Judaism are graspable by adults, but the foods of Passover are the kind of concrete symbols or glue that will keep your family tied to the abstractions of Judaism. ---- Betenu Alumni Confirmands and their Parents: On May 21st, 7:30PM, our annual "Betenu Confirmand reunion" occurs as we welcome our new confirmands and welcome back our alumni confirmands. Please let your adult children know about this event and if possible, have them join us that night. I can better prepare for the evening if I know in advance who is coming. To help me, RSVP to rabbi@betenu.org with names of attendees. Be-ve-ra-cha, Joshua L. Segal, Rabbi

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CONGREGATION BETENU

Rabbi: Joshua Segal 603-886-1633 or rabbi@betenu.org President: Dave Spokane 603-672-0554 or president@betenu.org VP Finance: Peter Stein 603-465-6036 VP Admin: Roberta Pavoll 603-672-9820 VP Educ: Sheryl Liberman 603-424-4609 Secretary: Elissa Kahn 603-673-8283 Treasurer: Joel Silberberg 603-472-8143 Trustee: Vivian McGuire 603-882-3139 Trustee: David Stern 603-880-0442 Trustee: Michael Goldstein 603-424-9953 Trustee@Large: Sara Murphy 603-465-7119 Past Pres: Elsa Conrad 603-879-9189

Newsletter Editor: Elissa Kahn

BETENU INFO

SPECIAL NOTE: Some members of Betenu are physically sensitive to certain aromas coming from perfumes, colognes, hairsprays the like. These aromas can cause migraines and a host of other problems. Please be aware of that when you come to Betenu.

Please DO NOT bring scented items for the SHARE donation bin.

Betenu has natural cleaning products available for use. Please DO NOT bring your own cleaning products for oneg or other cleanup.

Thank you!

AND FOR ONLINE SHOPPING… TEXTBOOKS AND A MILLION OTHER

THINGS...

Don’t forget to shop through Betenu’s link to Amazon.com. Betenu will receive a percentage of the purchase price.

You can shop for books and a million other things through this link. Just go to our website: www.betenu.org, put your cursor over “Search new and used, Amazon.com”, and when the cursor changes, click. Or you can enter your search right there and click “Go”.

It’s that simple! And don’t forget to purchase your textbooks here!

We receive about $20 a month from this program - Thank you & keep shopping!!!!

BETENU NOW ACCEPTS MC, VISA & Discover!

You can use MasterCard, VISA or Discover card to pay membership fees, school tuition, gift store purchases, or even to make a donation! Call the office (or stop in) to arrange the charge and let us know the amount and what it’s for.

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Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat

1

Pesach

2 7:30 pm

Rabbi-led 1st Friday Service /

Torah Study Pesach

3

Pesach

4

9:30 am Religious

School #26

Pesach

5

Pesach

6

Pesach ends

7 8 9

7:30 pm Lay-led Service

10

12:30 pm Kabbalah

at TBA

11

9:30 am Religious

School #27

Yom HaShoah

12 13 14 Rosh Chodesh:

Iyar

15 Rosh Chodesh:

Iyar

16

7:30 pm Rabbi-led

Service

17

18

9:30 am Religious

School #28

19 7:30 pm

General Bd Mtg—All

are invited

Yom HaZikaron

20

Yom

Haatzma’ut

21 22 23

7:30 pm Lay-led Service

24

25

NO Religious

School

26 27 28 29 30

7:30 pm Lay-led Service

April 2010 (5770)

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Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat

1

12:30 pm Kabbalah at Betenu

2 9:30 am

Religious School #29

Lag B’Omer

3 4 5 6 7 7:30 pm

Rabbi-led 1st Friday Service &

Torah Study

8 5 pm

Pajama Havdallah

with Sandra & Rahel

9 9:30 am

Religious School #30

Mothers Day

10 7:30 pm

Executive Board

Meeting

11 12

Yom Yerushalayim

13

14 7:30 pm Lay-led Service

Rosh Chodesh: Sivan

15

169:30 am Religious Snow

Day 1

7:30 pm Betenu Annual

Meeting

17 18

Erev Shavuot

19 8:30 pm Shavuot

Torah-thon

Shavuot

20

Shavuot

21 7:30 pm

Rabbi-led Shavuot /

Confirmation Service

22 5pm

Revelation & Celebration with Rahel

23 9:30 am Rel. Sch.

Snow Day 2

24 25 26 27 28

7:30 pm Rabbi-led

Service

29

Sarah Goldstein

Bat Mitzvah

30 31

Memorial Day

May 2010 (5770)

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COMING UP AT BETENU ANNUAL MEETING PREPARATIONS

The Betenu Annual Meeting is scheduled for Sunday, May 16. Elections will be held for President; Administration VP; Education VP; Treasurer; and two Executive Trustees. Anyone interested in running for office is invited to contact the temple office: 886-1633 or betenu@betenu.org. Anyone proposing bylaw amendments should have them to the temple office by the end of the day, Tuesday, April 13. This will allow time to prepare the proposal for presentation. IMPORTANT: We need a quorum to hold this meeting. Proxies count as part of this quorum. So, please plan to attend or give your proxy to someone who will be there. You may use the sample proxy below.

Congregation Betenu Annual Meeting

May 2010

Proxy Voting Form

I (we), (name(s)),

Being entitled to vote at the Annual Meeting,

Hereby appoint (*name of appointed person)

as my proxy to vote on my behalf at the 2010 annual meeting.

Signed (signature)

(date of signing)

*Assign one person only *A member can only vote the proxy for 2 other members. Please make sure this

person can have your proxy.

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TOT SHABBAT is POSTPONED April 17th

This event will be postponed. We will let you know the make up date.

GENERAL BOARD MEETING April 19th, 7:30pm

All are invited to attend the general board meetings which are even months (February, April…), usually the third Monday at 7:30pm. Talk to Dave Spokane ahead of time if you are interested in putting something on the agenda.

RABBI-LED FIRST FRIDAY SERVICE

Friday, April 2nd, 7:30pm

family-friendly service followed by an oneg followed by Torah study with Rabbi.

COMING UP AT BETENU continued...

PAJAMA HAVDALLAH WITH SANDRA & RAHEL

May 8th, 5pm Families are invited to enjoy stories, music, crafts & Israeli folk dancing for children with Sandra and Rahel. We finish with a short Havdallah service. Please bring a nosh!

RABBI-LED FIRST FRIDAY SERVICE

Friday, May 7th, 7:30pm

family-friendly service followed by an oneg followed by Torah study with Rabbi.

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March oneg hosts: Lessard (Danklef), Rubin-Baker & Rice families and all who contributed to the onegs.

Rahel Limor & Elissa Kahn for chairing Shabbat Across America / Canada.

Roberta Pavoll for the hamantaschen. David Stern for fixing the upstairs toilet. David Stern & Dave Spokane for dealing

with attic insulation issue. Mike Goldstein, Dave Spokane and

David Stern for setting up tables and chairs for the 2nd seder.

Dave Spokane and David Stern for representing us at the condo association annual meeting.

Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund Roberta & John Pavoll General Fund Elissa Kahn In memory of Stella G. Leczynski,

Pam Blotcky’s aunt Joel & Elaine Silberberg For Dr. Burstein’s complete recovery Sunday School Programming Harold & Doretta Shapiro

DONATIONS

Congregation Betenu acknowledges with appreciation the following contributions made during the month of February

BETENU THANKS

HOLD THESE DATES May 16th, 7:30pm: Betenu Annual Meeting. Please attend or send a proxy form. See previous

page. May 19th, 8:30 - 11:30pm: Shavuot Torah-thon. May 21st, 7:30pm: Rabbi-led Shavuot and Confirmation Service. Join us as we honor our

confirmand and celebrate the Shavuot holiday. May 22nd, 5pm: Revelation and Celebration: A Post-Shavuot Musical Meditation with Rahel.

The festival of Shavuot is a celebration of the revelation of Torah at Sinai and comes to remind us that Torah is the origin and the very essence of Jewish life. Join Singer/songwriter/Cantorial soloist, Rahel, for a post-Shavuot musical healing meditation for spiritual inspiration, reflection, revelation and celebration. The meditation is followed by a short Havdallah service and joyous Melave Malkah sacred dance session in celebration of the Torah. All are welcome.

May 29th: Sarah Goldstein’s Bat Mitzvah.

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YAHRZEITS FOR

APRIL Irving Starr ...........................father of Jen Starr ..................................... April Edward Jenner......................step-father of Deborah Spear.................... April Bernard Rubin (Ben Tzion ben Yorachem Fischel).. ............................. ..............................................father of Davida Rubin-Baker ................. April Daniel Gribetz ......................father of Jeff Gribetz................................. April Waldemar Schaffer ..............father of Paula Ellis .................................. April 1 Edward David Finkelstein.... .................................................................. April 3 Edith Fisher ..........................grandmother of Karen Satz....................... April 3 Augusta Levinson ................grandmother of Paula Silver ..................... April 5 Steve Meltzer……………. ..cousin of Joel Mascott .............................. April 7 Frances Krohn Fries ............. .................................................................. April 8 Betty Werner ........................grandmother of Sonia Ascher ................... April 10 (Nisan 26) Felix Werner ........................grandfather of Sonia Ascher ..................... April 10 (Nisan 26) Heinz Werner .......................uncle of Sonia Ascher............................... April 10 (Nisan 26) Robert August ......................cousin of Elaine Silberberg....................... April 16 Louise Levine.......................mother of Dan Levine............................... April 19 Rachel Miriam Gatland........mother of Marcella Dube.......................... April 19 Alfred White ........................father of Rowena Burstein........................ April 20 Arnold Dickes ......................father of Ellen Lubitz................................ April 21 Arthur Stewart......................father of Jamie Stewart ............................. April 22 Edwin Sleight .......................father of Kim Rimalover........................... April 24 Guy Darrow..........................father of Dara Smolski.............................. April 25 Rabbi Solomon Segal...........father of Joshua Segal............................... April 30 Merrill Jay Gross.................. .................................................................. April 30

It is with great sadness that we inform you of the passing of Stella G. Leczynski, Pam Blotcky’s aunt, who passed away on February 28th. May the Holy One bring peace to all who mourn.

APRIL BIRTHDAYS

Alison Chakuroff Jamie Danklefs Jessica Goff Ali Sagon Mark Sagon Annaliese Thomas Alexander Dube Samuel Dube

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HEBREW LANGUAGE INSTRUCTION, TORAH STUDY AND MORE

Bar / Bat Mitzvah… not the end of the road! There’s Torah study with the Rabbi, Hebrew language instruction with Rahel, Kabbalah Havruta with Eitan Zeira, and plenty of other learning opportunities throughout the year. Maybe you have an idea, or would even like to teach a class. If so, contact the office 886-1633 or Betenu@nii.net. Quench your thirst — jump into the well of Judaic studies. (Rahel’s classes are offered at a discount to Betenu members.)

ADULT EDUCATION

ROSH CHODESH FOR WOMEN

Join the Rosh Chodesh group for a short service, group discussion and nosh. For more information contact Sheryl Liberman 424-4609 or SAML54@comcast.net.

KABBALAH GROUP Saturdays at 12:30pm—once a month

April 10th at TBA May 1st at Betenu

Congregation Betenu and Temple Beth Abraham have a Kabbalah group. The suggested book is Inner Space by Kaplan. For more information contact Sheryl Liberman 424-4609 or SAML54@comcast.net.

Video of Sh’ma Meditation by Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan: www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9bwEFS7Btk&feature=related

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EDUCATION

ACCEPTING STUDENTS REGULAR RELIGIOUS

SCHOOL / POST HEBREW SCHOOL

Registration is ongoing for 2009-10 for our weekly Sunday classes in Jewish studies, Hebrew, Music and Bnei Mitzvah preparation for Grades 1-7 and our Rabbi-taught post Bnei Mitzvah classes for Grades 8 & 9. For questions or to get a registration form please call the temple office at 886-1633 or contact Rahel at rahel@rahelmusic.com.

Sunday Religious School Personnel: VP Education: Sheryl Liberman Principal: Rahel Limor Hebrew: Sonia Campeanu Jewish Studies: Don Wunderlich Grades 1 & 2: Sandra Whitman Assistant Teacher: Nina Matouka Madrichim: Dan Thompson, Alison Chakuroff, Rachel Liff, Izzy Starr

ONEG SHABBATS

To host an Oneg, one brings the desserts, fruit, and challah, and sets up and cleans up. To sponsor an Oneg, one pays $54 and the Oneg committee will purchase the food, set up and clean up. Either way you do it, you can honor a birthday, an anniversary, or any other special event in your life, by choosing the Oneg closest to that special date. Or you can remember the Yahrzeit of a loved one by hosting or sponsoring the Oneg on the Shabbat when you come to say Kaddish. If you have a date in mind, please call Roberta Pavoll at 672-9820.

The following Onegs will be hosted by: April 2: Open—Note: Passover food only April 9: Open April 16: school - Coolidge & Orenberg families April 23: Open April 30: Open Won’t you please choose an Oneg date and help foster the sense of community at Betenu? Thank you.

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COMMUNITY HAPPENINGS

“ISRAEL IS REAL” Listen live on the radio WSMN 1590AM or via the Internet at www.wsmnradio.com Fridays from 10-11 am. Or go to israelisreal.weebly.com and click on Archives at the top to listen to previous weeks’ shows. Now you can hear what you’ve been missing. Advertising and show sponsorship available.

SOUTHERN NEW HAMPSHIRE JEWISH MENS CLUB Membership form: http://snhjmc.home.comcast.net/~snhjmc/resources/SNHJMCForm.pdf

Check the website for the next VISION MEETING and other important information. Meetings will be held on Wednesdays and Thursdays this year! All friends

of Israel are welcome.

Check out www.nh4israel.org for more upcoming events,

articles and more...

FOOD NEEDED! The food pantries are in desperate need this year. Any donation would be appreciated. You may bring a food item directly to SHARE or the Nashua Soup Kitchen. If it is nonperishable, you may drop it off at Betenu (no scented products please) and we will deliver it to SHARE. Wish lists: www.sharenh.org/food.html and

www.nsks.org/CurrentWishList.asp

OTHER ITEMS For a list of other items needed please see:

www.sharenh.org or 603-673-3660: seasonal clothes and new socks and underwear www.nsks.org/CurrentWishList.asp Questions? Call Carol at 889-7770 ext 21

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COMMUNITY HAPPENINGS

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