©2005 institute of neuro- semantics chapter 9 the “intention/purpose” matrix page 236

©2005 Institute of Neuro-Semantics

Chapter 9

The “Intention/Purpose”

Matrix

Page 236


Intention – In every Matrix

You have already been introduced to the Intention Matrix.

In every Matrix, behind each one, there dwells higher intentions.

These higher intentions primarily operate unconsciously.

See Table 9:1 93


Meaning-Intentions Table

#1 Summary of Meaning/Value - Meaning Determines the Matrices─1. Classification of non-fluent speech as stuttering.2. Associating stuttering with fear and shame.3. Evaluating it as bad and unacceptable.4. Framing it has having the following meanings in the other matrices:

#7 Intention/Self #7 Intention/Power #7 Intention/Time #7 Intention/Others #7 Intention/World

Attempted solutions that make the problem worse.

I don’t want to look like a fool.

I will not show my vulnerabilities or weaknesses.

I will play it safe and create a sense of security because I am not like others. I am more sensitive.

I can’t handle criticism well.

I am going to try to control this?

I am going to try to control every word that comes out of my mouth.

I will do that by becoming very self aware of my speech.

I am going to not repeat the past.

I am not going to make a fool of myself with my speech anymore.

If I block any emotion in this moment, it will give me more control.

I am not going to attract attention.

I am not going to let others see my vulnerabilities.

I will not let them see me struggle.

I will avoid any situations around people or groups that will expose this weakness.

I will not give others a chance to laugh at me.

I will not do anything that will draw attention to me in my work, career, etc.

I will avoid speaking situations that will attract attention to me.

#2 Self #3 Power #4 Time #5 Others #6 World

I am flawed. (“There is something wrong with me.”)

I am broken.I am not enough. I am inadequate.I am foolish.I am worthless.I am insecure.I am timid.I am shy.I am anxious.I am tense.I am “shamed.”I am “possessed.”I can’t be enough.EmbarrassmentI am ashamed.I am angry.I am abnormal.

Loss of controlFrustrationLack of protection Perceived

hurt.I need to change.I can’t be enough.I am terrified of speaking to

____________. I need to be respected and

loved in order to speak fluently. (Other)

I should be doing better.I got to do something. I got to get it done.“It” (becoming fluent) works

for everybody but me.I cannot speak─In publicThe phone, stage

PermanentDoomedIt has always been this way.I am not making progress.I got to do something. I got to get it done.I can’t take my time to say

what I want to say (sense of being rushed).

It is not OK to stutter.Fear (of being rejected)Expectations from othersInability to measure up to

expectationsHurt (not being validated)RejectionIsolationProtection - (From getting

involved in a relationship.)

I am less than.I look foolish.Judged.People validate or determine

my worth.What people say about me

becomes the truth.

I should be doing better.I got to do something. I got to get it done.“The whole issue revolves

around ‘caring how I talk.’”

I won’t succeed.I am out of control.


Finding Higher Intentions

Ask: What is your intent? What is your purpose in that? By having that (name the purpose),

what does having that give you that is even more important?

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Not getting what we want – Case Study #1 “Roger” What thoughts lay behind Roger’s blocking/ stuttering:

I am afraid of looking silly. I am afraid of people who know more than me.

I am afraid of people who control my destiny.

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Roger’s Intentional Frames –

I am afraid of making a mistake. I am afraid of being questioned. I am afraid of a “meeting situation”

where I might stutter. I am afraid of suddenly and

unexpectedly being asked a question.

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“All behavior has behind it a positive intent.” This is not about right and wrong? We mean that for that person during

that time in his/her life with the resources that that person had available to him/her at that time in his/her life, they did the best they could.

To get this higher intent, we have to ask questions to “chunk up” on the behavior. Page 237


Chunking up on Roger – Bob, “Roger, what is the purpose

in fearing that your supervisor may know more than you? Or, that he may be short with you and that he may not wish to speak to you?” “I need his approval.” “I need to know that I am achieving.” “I need to be liked and when I am

achieving, people will like me.”Page 239


Some higher Intentional Frames Can Cause More Trouble –

Did Roger’s behavior of blocking and stuttering get him approval?

No! It got him more fear which created the blocking which left him feeling less approved.

“Attempted Solutions make the problem worse.”

See Table 9:1 Page 239


Meaning-Intentions Table

#1 Summary of Meaning/Value - Meaning Determines the Matrices─1. Classification of non-fluent speech as stuttering.2. Associating stuttering with fear and shame.3. Evaluating it as bad and unacceptable.4. Framing it has having the following meanings in the other matrices:

#7 Intention/Self #7 Intention/Power #7 Intention/Time #7 Intention/Others #7 Intention/World

Attempted solutions that make the problem worse.

I don’t want to look like a fool.

I will not show my vulnerabilities or weaknesses.

I will play it safe and create a sense of security because I am not like others. I am more sensitive.

I can’t handle criticism well.

I am going to try to control this?

I am going to try to control every word that comes out of my mouth.

I will do that by becoming very self aware of my speech.

I am going to not repeat the past.

I am not going to make a fool of myself with my speech anymore.

If I block any emotion in this moment, it will give me more control.

I am not going to attract attention.

I am not going to let others see my vulnerabilities.

I will not let them see me struggle.

I will avoid any situations around people or groups that will expose this weakness.

I will not give others a chance to laugh at me.

I will not do anything that will draw attention to me in my work, career, etc.

I will avoid speaking situations that will attract attention to me.

#2 Self #3 Power #4 Time #5 Others #6 World

I am flawed. (“There is something wrong with me.”)

I am broken.I am not enough. I am inadequate.I am flawed.I am foolish.I am worthless.I am insecure.I am timid.I am shy.I am anxious.I am tense.I am “shamed.”I am “possessed.”I am embarrassment.I am angry.I am abnormal.I can’t be enough.

Loss of controlFrustrationLack of Protection Perceived

hurt.I need to change.I can’t be enough.I am terrified of speaking to

____________. I need to be respected and

loved in order to speak fluently. (Other)

I should be doing better.I got to do something. I got to get it done.“It” (becoming fluent) works

for everybody but me.I cannot speak─In publicThe phone, stage

PermanentDoomedIt has always been this way.I am not making progress.I got to do something. I got to get it done.I can’t take my time to say

what I want to say (sense of being rushed).

It is not OK to stutter.Fear (of being rejected)Expectations from othersInability to measure up to

expectationsHurt (not being validated)RejectionIsolationProtection - (From getting

involved in a relationship.)

I am less than.I look foolish.Judged.People validate or determine

my worth.What people say about me

becomes the truth.

I should be doing better.I got to do something. I got to get it done.“The whole issue revolves

around ‘caring how I talk.’”

I won’t succeed.I am out of control.


Figure 9:1“Chunking

Up” for Higher

Intention

The Cinemaof the Mind

Anxiety

Fear

Inadequate

People watching me - fear

Wanting to hide

Feeling pretty safe

Contentment

Warmth & total acceptance

No judgent

God

Brad was anxiousspeaking beforepeople. Thesefeelings werelocated in hisstomach -heavy and tight.

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Figure 9:2Inside the problem

you find the solution.

ContentmentWarmth

AcceptanceBelief in

God

AnxietyFear

Applied toAnxiety & Fear.

Applied toAnxiety & Fear.

FearBecomesStrength

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Intentional Matrix Summarized What are you seeking to accomplish? What do you want? What’s your purpose or agenda? What are you living for? Why is that important to you? Why do you want that? Why do you give yourself to that? What do you hope to obtain by getting

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Meta-Stating Intentions

Every “thought” has two levels or dimensions:

1. Attention – what is in your immediate perception – what is on your mind.

2. Intention – thoughts in the back of our mind, higher thoughts – what is your motivation, agenda, or intention in doing that? Page 244


Figure 9:3

Task

At

Hand

Attention

Our goal is to align our higherintentions with our lower attentions(behaviors) so that we get what wereally want (fluency).

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Patterns for Aligning Higher Intention/Purposes

1. Meta-Stating an Intentional Stance for “Fluency”

2. Meta-Alignment – Aligning Higher Frames

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2) Meta-Stating an Intentional Stance For Fluency

1. How is fluency important to you?2. Move up the higher-levels ... one at a

time.3. Step into the higher value states of

importance so that you feel them fully.4. Bring the higher states/ frames of mind

down and out.5. Commission your executive mind to

take ownership of this.6. Invite other resources. pp. 250-

251


Meta-Alignment

1. Identify a primary state sensory-based experience wherein you want more alignment.

2. Identify the P-S mental-emotional skills and abilities which enable you to do this. (Capability)

3. Identify the meta-levels of beliefs and values that support and empower this. (Beliefs/ Values)

4. Identify the meta-state of identity which emerges for you. (Identity)

5. Identify the meta-state of purpose & destiny that then arises. (Vision, Mission, Spirit)

6. Identify the decision that supports this. 7. Describe these meta-Levels of meaning with a

metaphor or story.8. Bring the higher levels down to the P-S behavior

to let it all integrate. pp. 252-254


Figure 9:4Decision(Meta-Yes!)

Spiritual

Identity(Who)

Beliefs/ Values(Why)

Capabilities(How)

Note:This is not in aLogical-Level

format.

Metaphor/Story

Bring downand out -integrating.

Behaviors(What)

Environment(Boundaries

and Constraints)

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