131110 chi i wish i knew series (part 5 - keys to a strong marriage) by ps. timothy loh
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第五部 : 稳固婚姻的关键Part 5: Keys to a Strong Marriage
简介 Introduction:
简介 Introduction:
一个实用的系列让我们活出较少遗憾和更有目的的人生。
A practical series about living lifewith fewer regrets and more purpose.
哈巴谷书 2:2 Habakkuk 2:2
“ 耶和华回答我说:“把异象写下,清楚地记在泥板上,使读的人容易明白。”
“Write the vision, And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it.”
这系列 The series:
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
• 如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
• 如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
• 如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
• 如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
• 如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
• 如何拥有牢固的婚姻 How to have a strong marriage
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
• 如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
• 如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
• 如何拥有牢固的婚姻 How to have a strong marriage
• 如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting life
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
• 如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
• 如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
• 如何拥有牢固的婚姻 How to have a strong marriage
• 如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting life
• 如何避免愤怒 How to keep anger at bay
这系列 The series: • 如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
• 如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
• 如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
• 如何拥有牢固的婚姻 How to have a strong marriage
• 如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting life
• 如何避免愤怒 How to keep anger at bay
• 如何不要担忧 How to not worry
牢固婚姻的关键Keys to a Strong Marriage
文化风暴 Cultural Storm:婚姻正受冲击 Marriage is under
attack
今日婚姻的文化 Marriage today culturally:
文化风暴:婚姻正受冲击 Cultural Storm: Marriage is under attack
今日婚姻的文化 Marriage today culturally:
•可选的 Optional
文化风暴:婚姻正受冲击 Cultural Storm: Marriage is under attack
今日婚姻的文化 Marriage today culturally:
•可选的 Optional
•可丢弃的 Disposable
文化风暴:婚姻正受冲击 Cultural Storm: Marriage is under attack
今日婚姻的文化 Marriage today culturally:
•可选的 Optional
•可丢弃的 Disposable
•可重新定义的 Redefinable
文化风暴:婚姻正受冲击 Cultural Storm: Marriage is under attack
与一个海豚
与一个抱枕
与一只狗 与巴黎铁塔
与一个电子游戏
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
2. 正确转变 TRANSIT right
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
创世纪 2: 15-18耶和华上帝把那人安置在伊甸园,让他耕耘看管。 耶和华上帝吩咐那人说:“园中各样树上所出的,你可以随意吃, 只是知善恶的树所出的,你不可吃,因为你吃它的日子必定死!”耶和华上帝说:“那人单独一个不好,我要为他造一个配偶帮助他。”
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
创世纪 2 : 22-24耶和华上帝就用那人身上所取的肋骨造了一个女人,带她到那人面前。 那人说:
“ 这正是我骨中的骨,肉中的肉,可以称她为女人,因为她是从男人身上取出来的。”
因此,人要离开父母,与妻子结合,二人成为一体。 当时夫妻二人赤身露体,并不觉得羞耻。
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
马太福音 19: 4-6耶稣回答:“那起初造人的,是造男造女,并且说:‘因此,人要离开父母,与妻子结合,二人成为一体。’这经文你们没有念过吗? 既然如此,夫妻不再是两个人,而是一体的了。所以,上帝配合的,人不可分开。”
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
•婚姻是誓约 Marriage is covenant
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
•婚姻是誓约 Marriage is covenant –摩西的盟约 - 安息日 Mosaic – Sabbath
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
•婚姻是誓约 Marriage is covenant 1.摩西的盟约 - 安息日 Mosaic – Sabbath 2.亚伯拉罕的盟约 - 割礼
Abrahamic Covenant – circumcision
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
•婚姻是誓约 Marriage is covenant 1.摩西的盟约 - 安息日 Mosaic – Sabbath 2.亚伯拉罕的盟约 - 割礼
Abrahamic Covenant – circumcision 3.诺亚的盟约 - 彩虹
Noahic Covenant – Rainbow
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
•婚姻是誓约 Marriage is covenant –新的约 - 圣灵 New Covenant – Holy Spirit
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神圣的 (不只是另一个选项) Marriage is SACRED (not optional)
•婚姻是誓约 Marriage is covenant –新的约 - 圣灵 New Covenant – Holy Spirit –婚姻 - 亲密关系 / 性
Marriage – intimacy / sex
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是圣约 (不可丢弃的)Marriage is COVENANTAL (not disposable)
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是圣约 (不可丢弃的)Marriage is COVENANTAL (not disposable)
• 不是一份合同 Not a contract
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是圣约 (不可丢弃的)Marriage is COVENANTAL (not disposable)• “ 合同”是两方之间的协议,双方同意相互
提供一定的好处,只要另一方坚持他们的最终协议。A “contract” is an agreement between two parties who mutually agree to provide each other with certain benefits as long as the other party upholds their end of the agreement.
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是圣约 (不可丢弃的)Marriage is COVENANTAL (not disposable)• 一段盟约的关系是当双方相互同意开始一段
关系,并在这段关系中寻求另一方的最佳利益,而不计个人成本和 /或自我牺牲。A covenant relationship is when two parties mutually agree to enter into a relationship and seeks out the other person’s best interest, regardless of the personal cost and/or sacrifice to self.
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
1. 正确思考 THINK right
–婚姻是神预定 / 起源的 (是不可重新定义的) Marriage is ORDAINED / ORIGINATED BY God (not redefinable)
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right – 马太福音 19 : 5
‘ 因此,人要离开父母,与妻子结合,二人成为一体。’ 既然如此,夫妻不再是两个人,而是一体的了。
Matthew 19:5-6For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•我的形成 The Making of ME
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•婚姻里的“我” The ME in a Marriage
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•婚姻里的“我” The ME in a Marriage 服事我,爱我,祝福我,关心我 ..等等 Serve me, love me, bless me, care for me…etc.
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•婚姻里的“我” The ME in a Marriage 我的方式,我的喜好,我的意见,
我的欲望,我的愿望…等等 My way, my preference, my opinion, my desire, my wishes…etc.
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•两个“我”的相遇 The Meeting of 2 MEs
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•两个“我”的相遇 The Meeting of 2 MEs 较大的“我”获胜,较小的“我”缩小 Bigger ME wins, smaller me shrinks
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•两个“我”的相遇 The Meeting of 2 MEs 较大的“我”获胜,较小的“我”缩小 Bigger ME wins, smaller me shrinks
两个同样大小的“我”会持续争吵2 same size ME fights all the time
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
– 转变 : 从我到我们 The transition: FROM ME TO WE
•两个“我”的相遇 The Meeting of 2 MEs 当中“我”会牵涉“我的家族”,
如此争吵会持续扩大 The ME gets “my clans …” to get involve, the fights grow larger …
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
2. 正确渡过 Transit Right
–在婚姻中,越早从“我”转变到“我们”,婚姻会越牢固!The earlier a marriage moves from me to WE, the stronger the marriage will be!
牢固婚姻的关键 Keys to a strong marriage:
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
婚姻的战场 Battlegrounds in Marriage
Part 5: Keys to a Strong Marriage