+ dealing with our fears! ماوراء الخوف والقلق؟ st. george & st. joseph coptic...
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+Dealing with Our Fears!
والقلق؟ الخوف ماوراءSt. George & St. Joseph Coptic Orthodox Church, Montreal, QC
Family Meeting – September 23, 2015
Yousry Armanios, M.D.
احباءي يا لكم :اقول
وبعد الجسد يقتلون الذين من تخافوا الذلك ...
(12:4لوقا)
Worries & Fears!
“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, … Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?”
(Matthew 6:25-27)
Faith vs. Worrying!
“Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its
own trouble.” (Matthew 6:34)
What Can Worrying Do to Us?
• Sleep Irregularities - Nightmares
• Physical Suffering: Cardiovascular, GIT …
• General Anxiety
• Panic Attacks
• Impact on School, Job, Family Life … etc.
• Making Wrong Decisions
• Depression
On Top!القمة ! على
العالم قمة على جلست
صرت :عندما
“I have sat on top of the world when I desired nothing and
feared nothing!”)Saint Augustine(
) امثلة ) القلق أمراضExpressing Our Worries!
القلق + مرضالفزع + مرض
الكمالية + مرضالوسواس + مرض
+ When worrying becomes a disorder!Anxiety Disorders: Anxiety; Panic Attacks;
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder; Perfectionism;PTSD … etc
Our Fears & Worries:How We Develop the “W-word”!
Our Early Childhood Years
Our Fears & Worries:How We Develop the “W-word”!
+ Anyone in Your Family was a Worrier?
+ Were You the Caring Family Member?
+ Worried about Things in Your Life Today:
1. Health (Life in General)?
2. Your Significant Others?
3. Finances – Job – Career …
4. Role of the Media!
The Stereotype: “I am so Scared”!
• Adolescents & Teenagers
• Young Adults
• Getting Married
• After Marriage
• Parents
• Empty Nests
• Seniors
Are These Real Issues?
1. Role of Magnifying vs. Minimizing
2. Role of Reality!
3. Role of Guilt & God’s Punishment!
4. Forgiveness!
Dealing with Fears & Worries
• Faith & Spirituality
• Support
• Assurance: “Do Not Worry!” )360+ times(
• “Systematic Desensitization”
• “Reconditioning”
• Repentance & Communion!
• Fearing God?!
No Fear in Love!
“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves
torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.”
(1John 4:18)
Worried about Your Own Salvation?
Are You?!
Finally:“Do Not Be Afraid,” 366 Times
“Do not fear, for those who are with us are more than those who
are with them.”(2 Kings 6:16)
And, Never Be Afraid!
“Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to
give you the kingdom.”(Luke 12:32)
Depression
The Other “Twin”!
Sorrow & Depression
What is the Difference Between Depression and
Sadness or Sorrow?
What is Depression?
Profound or Deep Sadness
PlusLoss of Interest or Motivation
How Does Depression Hurt?
• "I feel sad all the time"
• "I just don’t like myself"
• "I don't enjoy being with friends or others”
• “I no more love the things I used to enjoy"
• "I've had a lot of trouble sleeping"
• "I’m having aches, and I don't know why."
• "I feel like my life is not worth of anything"
Depression Occurs Because of:
• Things Inside Us )Intrinsic – Genetic Factor(
Primary Depression: Serious and needs Medical Attention for Life!
• Things Outside Us )Extrinsic – Acquired(
Secondary Depressions: Sometimes Very Serious and Counseling )and sometimes Medical Attention( till Complete Recovery!
Body Language
Secondary Depression:How Does It Start?
Childhood:1. Child Abuse & Bullying )Low Self-worth( 2. Exposure to Child Neglect )Insecurity(3. Miscommunication & Lack of Validation4. Build-up of Guilt & Anger 5. Exposure to Family Disruptions )Fear(6. Exposure to “Depression-at-Home”7. “My Child is Like an Angel”!
Later in Life
• Loneliness
• Introversion & Withdrawal
• Anger, Resentment & Depression
• Addiction & Depression (Emotional Pain)
• Dysfunctional Life Aspects
Dopamine, Serotonin (Endorphins)
How Do They Work?
Acting Out Depression & Anxiety
1. Hyperactivity & Restlessness )Children(
2. Indulgence in Pleasurable Activities: Drugs; Alcohol; Sex; the Internet; Eating; Shopping; Gambling … etc.
3. Engagement in Negative Relationships
4. Withdrawal from Social Interactions
The Outcome
• Avoiding negative feelings doesn’t work
• Suffering more emotional pain
• More loneliness, anger and self-pitying
• Believing that “No one understands!”
• Blaming self or others for all problems
• Losing Interest in Life gradually
• May think that death solves problems
The Solution!
• Hope & Support
• Faith in a Better Future, in Christ
• Forgiveness: Confession & Communion
• Healthy Spirituality & Spiritual Attitudes
• Non-Judgmental Social Approaches
• Appropriate Intervention: Counseling
• Medical Treatment )whenever needed(
Finally:
“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!”
(Philippians 4:4)
